'You shouldn't buy this house': Woman Faces Opportunity to Buy Her Dream House, Boyfriend Claims He’ll Break Up With Her if She Goes Through With the Purchase

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May 17, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

When you are young and in the process of understanding yourself, one of the main challenges you have is figuring out your priorities in life. Understanding what you value as the most important thing in your life, could be your career, your family, or your childhood dream, while also learning to incorporate other elements without giving up those most valuable to you. Throw in a relationship into the mix, with another person that has their own valuable element, and it becomes even more of a challenge to balance your life.

This problem is perfectly depicted in the Reddit story down below. The girl who posted the story voiced her concerns about her boyfriend, who hinted that he would break up with her if she bought her dream house. The girl suspects that is because her boyfriend is planning on moving back to his hometown, 7 hours away from the house she wants to buy. Now she has to figure out her priorities, and whether or not she values her relationship more than her dream.

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  • 01
    My boyfriend (24M) will breakup with me (25F) if I buy a house?
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 02
    Alright this is my first time posting ever on reddit so be kind you weirdos haha but I truly don't know what to do... I've been very blessed and fortunate that my parents created a savings account for me to buy my first home.
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 03
    Context I finished my MA and moved back home to save some cash to buy a house. I moved home about a year and a half ago, I met my now boyfriend (he's doing an apprenticeship in town and wants to move back
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 04
    to his hometown when he's finished, 7hours away.) We've been dating for 7months. I've managed to save up money (not a crazy amount ~15k) to start at least looking around.
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 05
    My parents then told me about the savings account they have for me (~30k). I've been now invested in finding a place. I found a place last week (an intensive fixer upper, like I'm talking gutting it from ground
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 06
    up) but it's my dream location in my hometown by the water and I love the idea of making it my own (obviously with a lot of time, money, and help)!! I brought this up to my boyfriend and he's been stone walling me
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 07
    with everything I bring up with me buying this house? Saying things like "that's going to take years to fix", "that's going to cost so much to fix", etc. Like I already know this?? But it's giving me more of "if you do this we're through" vibes... and I
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 08
    just don't know what to do or say to him that I haven't already... Is this him finding a way out because he wants to move back to his hometown? Is he jealous? I want to be with him, he's truly the man of my dreams, but are we just in different places in life?
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 09
    more info • He is not expected to help with anything to do with this house. He's an electrician apprentice • His apprenticeship ends in -2years
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 10
    • The house is being sold by a family friend to me for $120K (price of the lot). • Don't know how house by the water means seaside villa? I live in Ontario so when someone mentions water it's more like a house by a body of water I.e. a lake.
    via u/gaminggurlx
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    • I haven't sent in a letter of offer to buy this place I am just seeing how the rest of the world feels about this situation. • SIDE NOTE: If I do put a letter of offer in yes I would be able to live at home for the time being (and yes BF would be able
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 12
    to live with me at my family home if he would even want that??) • I FULLY UNDERSTAND THAT IT WILL TAKE YEARS AND LOTS OF MONEY TO DO THIS UNLESS I TOMORROW AT MY RIPE AGE OF 25 I WILL BE ABLE TO DO THIS PROJECT OVER TIME WITH MONEY THAT I MAKE
    via u/gaminggurlx
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    • I also didn't know about him wanting to go back home until about a month and half ago. • Clarification I would be doing this while working FT from home, and would be doing this project over the course of 5+ years to either rent, live, or sell it -
    via u/gaminggurlx
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    An investment property for the future. update • I've already told him that I would be also willing to move to his hometown after he's done his apprenticeship (whenever that is, maybe 2 years but the program is apparently
    via u/gaminggurlx
  • 15
    backed up so could be longer?)... but I just feel like it's a sacrifice he wouldn't do for me, so yeah. • I will keep everyone posted of our conversation after him and I talk (he's gone to play golf)
    via u/gaminggurlx
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    This_Grab_452 · 19 hr. ago Soo... are you two even serious? If the answer is yes, I would expect you have had a conversation about what life you see for yourselves. He wants to move 7hrs away from the home you're planning to buy. This does not sound like you're trying to build anything together.
    via u/This_Grab_452
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    Miniature Philosopher - 16 hr. ago Right? There's no reason to be basing life plans around someone that you've only known for 30 Mondays. Especially if that person has a completely different life plan than your own.
    via u/MiniaturePhilosopher
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    Diasies_inMyHair · 19 hr. ago You know that he wants to ultimately move 7 hours away. You know that you want this house. Where does that leave you in the long run? Besides, you've only been dating him for 7 months. That's not long at all. You are going to have to do what is best for you and let things work out however they are going to work out.
    via u/Diasies_inMyHair
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    ChanceAd3606 - 20 hr. ago Your boyfriend is planning to move back home which is 7 hours away, and you're talking about buying a house where you currently live...and you're telling me you don't understand why he isn't thrilled about your decision?
    via u/ChanceAd3606
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    • TheNinjaPixie 19 hr. ago If he wants to move back to his hometown why can't he just say that? and what does OP want? Do they want to move back to *his* hometown too? This would be the perfect time to, ya know, have a convo about the future and where that will be!
    via u/TheNinjaPixie
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    nooneinparticular246. 18 hr. ago I could be wrong (and am not saying it's right) but sometimes people avoid conversations because they already know how it's going to end
    via u/nooneinparticular246
  • 22
    EdWoodWoodWood 20 hr. ago Buy the house, roll your sleeves up, get stuck in. It'll take you at least twice as long as you think and cost more than double what you fear, but it'll be worth it. If he's up for being your partner with the challenge, good on him. If not, you'll be a single lass with a house by the water ;-)
    via u/EdWoodWoodWood
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    • Opening Track_1227 · 18 hr. ago I can see his side. I would think long and hard about buying a fixer upper that needs intensive work just because it is in your dream location especially when you have a nice size amount of money to put on a down payment for a house that doesn't need the same amount of work and he has plans to move back home. I suggest talking this out with him.
    via u/Opening_Track_1227
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    Choice-Intention-926 19 hr. ago So you're going to give up the home of your dreams for a man you've known for 7-months who has shown he's not willing to give up any of his dreams for you. What other dreams do you have to give up? You say you just finished your masters but what if
    via u/Choice-Intention-926
  • 25
    he wants a stay at home wife. I guess thats another dream you have to give up for him. Sounds to me like he'd rather have you use your resources on his behalf. You can't live your life for the comfort of others. You can't put aside your wants for the wants of others. That's where resentment comes from.
    via u/Choice-Intention-926
  • 26
    Buy your house. Fix it up. Worst case scenario you end up moving away but you have a place you can rent out and come back to. Never sell your first home. It's a premarital asset, and no one can take it from you.
    via u/Choice-Intention-926

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